LIVING TO THE FULLEST*

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Many times we come across some similar statements “don’t do this” “don’t go there alone” and especially those W’s and the H irritate every child to the core. There was a time when even I went through the same situation. Thank God my parents changed very early. Interference in a Childs life is important but frequency changes from child to child and their comfort. And this happens almost everywhere. Parents become insecure, obsessed, and start behaving insanely. Though they are absolutely right they should have knowledge about their Childs whereabouts. Certainly not like this where you lose your Childs confidence and where your child starts finding you irritating. This is when s/he starts hiding things from you leading to wrong decisions and regretful paths.

          I will take my personal example when I was in 7^th standard I went for a birthday party of a friend and returned around 10:30PM, the moment when I was questioned I felt I was questioned for a silliest thing (I dint have a mobile phone in 7th). The questionnaire broke out into an argument (my fault I should have answered them properly). And when we (children) decide that something is wrong is being done to us then we become so adamant that we want to win the argument either by hook or by crook, we don’t care who the opposite person is we are talking with. After that particular incident my parents, especially my mom built a comfort zone around me and that’s how I started discussing everything very friendly and frankly with her, from my deep fears to the moment I decided to get married. And so is the environment my brother gets.

          See the whole thing is in parent’s hand. One wrong step at a wrong time you cannot bring the situation back. Protecting your child from alien factors is perfectly okay, but one should open up with their children and talk to them about such factors. Those alien factors are nothing but the circle they join, make them aware of the crimes happening, who should be trusted (I think nobody should be trusted), bring them up by teaching humanity, helping tendency, etc. As the age when you can get your child under confidence varies, but 10-15 is a very tender age where a child can be moulded. If you ask your child to ignore certain thing s/he will do it in front of you but you never know what happens at you back. It is human tendency, we make sure we do which is being not to do. Similarly children are no exceptional.

Keeping a child free makes him/her more independent and they themselves tend to put up limitations for them. Yes there are certain mischief’s dealing with whom becomes a though cookie to crack. No doubt things are changing, parents are changing, mentality of society is changing (not only verbally but in means of action also). Yes, in the name of change many parents emotionally harass tri children. This should not be done, it’s their life. There is still a set which is major that needs to change. And the change will begin among us.